Five Love Languages of Children–time
Today, I acted as sergeant. We had stuff to do, and I wanted it done ASAP. If not sooner. School, jobs, clean-up project, Sabbath prep. Food to cook, baths to take, the whole nine yards plus some.
I set a timer for the first round, then laid out the day. Such and such will be done by one hour, then this next project, and so on.
That worked well for 2/3 of my sons. The other son worked, but at a slower pace, and he did not meet the deadline. Grr…
The next phase also stretched out, and I began to get cranked up. More orders, more frustration all around. Less efficiency, and not so much getting done! Have you been there?
Can you win and lose in the same day?
Yes, you can.
You can win battles, but lose hearts.
And that’s what I was doing. Trying to win at all costs. Oh, I didn’t know it. I just knew that my boys needed to shape it up and get moving so we could get things done!
As you have probably experienced in your homeschool and family, giving orders doesn’t do much to bring everyone into harmony. Well, it didn’t bring harmony here either. It just led to frustration for all, plus the added bonus of people giving up! When a couple of kids give up, less gets done, and leads to the Grumpy Mom.
Grumpy Mom, Grumpy Kids
Happy wife, happy life is true. So is Happy Mom, Happy Family, even though that doesn’t rhyme! Mother is the queen of the home, and if she has sunshine, the rest of the home usually will reflect it! Of course, everyone has a grumpy day here and there, but as long as everyone is not contributing, that person can usually climb back up onto the happy path soon. So, Mothers (and Fathers), you have a huge influence in your home!
When you begin to hit those brick walls, you need to do some self-evaluation. Prayer is key. Humility also is necessary. But first, you have to stop and actually ask yourself (and God), “What’s going on here?”